Rules for a Happy Marriage

The sacrament of matrimony is indeed sacred. For two individuals to decide on tying the knot for the rest of their lives, it has got to be a serious thing. Responsibilities far greater than just making homework lies ahead for the two lovers. For one to engage in marriage, he or she has to be prepared holistically. Every aspect in one’s being has to be ready for the new life ahead. Psychologically, emotionally, spiritually, physically and financially ready must one be prior to embarking on the life of married people. If one decides to be married and not fully prepared, marital conflicts and chaos shall await that person.

However, let us not forget that conflict is a normal episode among lovers bound by marriage. No matter how compatible two persons are, conflict will still arise, one way or another, because it is an inevitable force in life. So how will marriage work smoothly for two persons in love? Is there a secret formula for a happy marriage? Well, it really depends upon the lovers involved with regards to how they run their relationship as husband and wife. I don’t really think that there’s a     formula since each person is unique and so is his or her preferences. However, there is one thing that I am sure of, to be able to make the relationship last, both must learn to give and take.

To maintain homeostasis in the context of marriage, I have devised 10 rules, or shall I say 10 commandments for lovers to follow to achieve a happy marriage.

1.      Never both be angry at the same time.

2.      Never yell at each other, unless the house is on fire.

3.      If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your mate.

4.      If you have to criticize, do it in a loving manner.

5.      Never bring up mistakes of the past.

6.      Neglect the whole world rather than each other.

7.      Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.

8.      At least once every day, try to say one kind or complementary thing to your better-half.

9.      When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness.

10.  It takes two to make a quarrel and the one who is in the wrong side must do most of the talking.